Just a note. Charlie has calmed down a lot from her previous tense anxiety levels.
I have been thinking the past couple of days have more “normal” and relaxed for the children. But even now, I see little things – like being followed by Charlie around the house. When I sat downstairs to watch a message somebody sent me. I could hear Charlie outside the room quietly, then she went outside and listened outside the window for a moment. She wanted to know what or who I was listening to.
So I guess my “normal”, is still pretty outside most peoples “normal”.
You can never challenge Charlie on any of of her behaviour. There is always a reason or an excuse, but if you watched her, she has been absolutely checking on me for the entire day. She wanted to go to Ikea, not for anything big, just to look at a few things. If I went, I would just be watching the children whilst she looked. So I declined to go. As soon as I said I would stay home, she decided not to go either.